14 Jul What A Single Dad Looks For In A Girlfriend
What A Single Dad Looks For In A Girlfriend – After my marriage broke down it took a while to get back into dating. When I felt comfortable to start dating again (about 7-8 months for me), I went on a few dates with no expectations of them going anywhere. Being a dad of two who has his kids 50% of the time I had to make sure I wasn’t wasting my time or my dates time. So after six months, I started to ask myself what I was looking for in a woman and potential partner. Here’s what I (and probably most single dads) want in a girlfriend.
You’re good with kids and like ours.
This is a no brainer and although you’re probably not going to have the same bond with our kids as if they were your own it’s still really important that you like each other. Hopefully, over time this bond will get stronger and ideally you will grow to love them as your own (at least that’s the dream). The last thing we would want you thinking is that you have to put up with the kids to be with us. At the end of the day, single dads are a package deal, and if you think that’s not something you want then its best for everyone involved. I don’t want to waste your time or mine, and I definitely wouldn’t want to waste my kids time.
We want trust in a relationship.
Being a single dad means that at some point in time we have had our trust broken, usually by our ex (the kid’s mum) or possibly someone we dated after and the relationship broke down. One of my favourite quotes about trust is ” Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair” and in my experience, I have found it to be very true. We don’t mean to seem paranoid, untrusting or stupid but we just want to protect ourselves and our kids from going through any unnecessary pain or stress. We know this can be frustrating for you, but please bare with us. Chances are we have been through a bit of a rough time when it comes to relationships and we are worried about losing you. With all that said we really want to be trusted by you. Odds are we get enough unwanted issues from our ex when dropping off or picking up the kids, you trusting us means we have someone who we can lean on and who can lean on us for support.
We want passion.
Having kids means that “passion” has to be sometimes left until after the kid’s bed time, but we want to be with someone who wants to act like more than flatmates who rent the same place. We want the cheeky bum slaps, a few raunchy texts back and forth, maybe even a naughty picture now and then ;). Just because we are dads doesn’t mean we’re passed it. We want to be in a passionate relationship with someone who we are passionate about and who’s passionate about us, someone who’s up for a quickie in the afternoon to slobbing out in front of Netflix
No game playing.
We’re too old and been through too much for that shit. We like a woman to say what she means and who also likes to hear it straight from us. No head game, no drama, no moods for no reason, just tell us the problem or what it is we’ve done and give us the chance to make it right. We know what we want and are happy to tell you, we don’t want to waste your time or our own. It all comes down to being happy. We want to be happy, we want to make you happy and we definitely want to make our kids happy. If we can manage that, then we ain’t doing half bad.
That’s my take on What A Single Dad Looks For In A Girlfriend, Thanks for reading. As always if you have any comments or you have any advice yourself please leave a comment below it would be great to hear from you.
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Thanks, David 😉